Here’s How You Make Best Friends for Life

According to research, friendship is one of the most important factors when it comes to leading a happy life. And yet, those same friends can also cause a lot of issues and problems. You can grow apart, feel misunderstood, have differences of opinions or get tangled up in fights and gossip. Sometimes this is just par for the course, but there are also plenty of things you can do to keep your BFF status and invest in your friendships.

 

Here are some obvious and not-so-obvious ways to strengthen the bond between you and your friends.

1. Dare to be alone

This sounds like a very strange tip for an article about friendship, but if you’re good at being by yourself, this means that you won’t just form friendships to feel less scared or alone. You won’t settle for less and you’ll only become friends with the people you find truly special. Being able to be alone gives you the strength to be there for your friends when they need you, and that builds a better bond. Furthermore, when you’re alone, you learn what’s most important to you, and it gives you time to recharge.

 

2. Accept imperfection

You have high standards for yourself and for your friends. But sometimes you need to set the bar a bit lower for yourself, and that also applies to your friends. If you accept somebody’s faults, you’ll probably feel much closer to them than if you’re constantly paying attention to their shortcomings. And if you show vulnerability, this will be appreciated and strengthen the bond between you.

 

3. Be present

In the days of digital communication, you can easily go weeks—or even months—without seeing your friends. Sometimes this is unavoidable, like when they’re living abroad. But if this isn’t the case, really try to make time to see each other. When you get together, truly listen to them. Don’t be sneaking glances at your phone: put it on silent and try to listen attentively without letting your thoughts drift.

 

4. Don’t hold onto grudges

We all know that feeling of realising how much you love somebody only after something terrible happens. It would be truly awful if you didn’t work through your differences beforehand. So, you should do this as soon as possible: don’t hold onto grudges and forgive each other’s mistakes. This takes a bit of courage, but you’ll notice that it can actually bring you closer together. Perhaps this meditation can help.

 

5. Be considerate

We’re all busy, and during those moments that you might not able to be physically present, you can be present in other ways. Send a spontaneous note or an article that you think your friend would be interested in, or maybe even a book or movie you’d both like that you can talk about the next time you see each other.

 

6. Respect differences

Especially in the current political climate, differences in political opinion can cause arguments or growing apart. But it doesn’t have to be this way and it’s also a bit of a pity, because who really wants a friend group full of yes-men? Isn’t it much more interesting to also have close relationships with people who have different opinions than you? In order to maintain a good relationship, it’s important that whatever is said is not taken personally. Try to be open to each other’s opinions, to learn from each other and if tempers are running too high, agree to disagree.

 

7. Determine if you’re a giver, taker or a combination of both

Nobody becomes friends in a day. Friendship is something that needs to be built up, depending on the interaction that you have with each other. And that interaction is also dependent on your personality type. Are you a giver who cares about everyone and thinks too little about themselves? Are you more the opposite and think only about what you’re getting out of a relationship, without giving something back? Or do you know how to strike the perfect balance between the two? Figure this out on your own and then adapt as much as necessary, because friendships are always a question of giving and taking.

 

We hope these tips help you deepen existing relationships and maybe even build some new ones. Especially with the coming holidays, it’s important to surround yourself with the people you love and to open your heart to them.